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I hardly ever turn on the TV in the morning. I used to spend a couple of hours almost every morning watching that garbage they call “morning news” (the perks of working from home). But then I got smart and realized what a waste of time it was. There’s only about 10 minutes of news in a 2-hour program anyway. The rest is tabloid-worthy gossip and advice from people disguised as experts.
But for some reason I turned on the TV this morning and started watching GMA. And as I was coming to my senses and about to turn it off, they hooked with me a teaser for an upcoming segment about a controversy surrounding a lady who wrote a book saying that working moms are happier than stay-at-home moms. Well, being that my blog and my coaching business is all about helping working moms, I had to stick around to watch it. I’m always up for a little controversy.
And about 30 seconds into the segment, I realized why I think these morning news programs are garbage.
Let me first say that I am not affiliated with GMA, the author, or the book in any way. I have not read the book. It’s not even available to purchase yet. I couldn’t even find it on iBooks to read a sample. Not one single review on amazon.com.
Now, because I respect the efforts of fellow writers and entrepreneurs, I’m not going to tell you the author’s name or the title of the book. That’s not the point of this post anyway.
What I do want to say is this…
This was one of the worst interviews I have ever watched. Robin and George asked several questions about why this author feels working moms are happier than SAHM’s but her answers didn’t even match the questions. What spewed forth from her mouth was a bunch of rehearsed garbage intended to entice people to head over to Amazon and pre-order her book.
I felt like I was watching a skit on SNL. The news anchor asks a question – guest being interviewed answers a completely different question. It was comedy at its best.
Needless to say, it was very much a “bait and switch” play by GMA producers to try and get people to stick around and watch the rest of the show.
Where’s this controversy they spoke of? I couldn’t find anything about it. No backlash on social media. No post going viral.
She claims to be an expert at helping women have more balanced and fulfilled lives. She claims that if you leave the workforce you will have a difficult time finding a job later on.
And then the part that compelled me to write this post…On the front of her book she has a picture of a pie chart with 7 perfectly spaced wedges that represent the 7 areas of our lives we need to focus on to keep in balance. She says you have to “be playing” in all 7 of them (or at least 6 of them) at all times to be happy and live a full life.
Well here’s my opinion on balance…
A balanced life doesn’t necessarily equate to happiness. I think allowing ourselves to be out of balance is sometimes what we need to feel more joy. If all you’re looking for is to get more done and be able to check off boxes on a to-do list, then this author’s book is probably for you.
But if you’re looking to have more joy in your life, screw that perfectly-segmented pie chart. Throw it in someone’s face and get real with yourself. Joy comes when we let go of the idea of always having to be perfect. Of being everything to everyone. Some days it’s all we can do to get out of bed and change from our pajamas to our “dressier” yoga pants.
And you know what…that is perfectly okay.
So here’s my take on the whole balance thing (picture me throwing a pie in that author’s face as you read this):
- Every day is going to be different. Give the best you have for that day.
- If you want to be a SAHM, then be a SAHM.
- If you want to have a career and a family, have a career and a family.
- Let go of the guilt you feel and just do the best you can.
- If you want something more than you have now, work until you get it.
- Remember that you are enough. It’s okay if your pie is a little lopsided.
I would love to know your thoughts on balance. What does your balance pie chart look like? Leave a comment and let me know!